X PSA if you have a nasty, bi-phobic song please do not use it in the name of helping the gay community goodbye
hoW IS THIS BIPHOBIC?? THE SONG IS LITERALLY ABOUT BEING A BI FEMALE. BRENDON URIE IS BI (ARGUABLY). AS A BI MAN I AM CONFUSED. EXPLAIN.
it perpetuates negative stereotypes about bisexual people (bisexual women especially) and i don’t know where you got the idea that the song is about being a “bi female” like i guess that’s one way to interpret it but still perpetuates harmful stereotypes such as bi people just being confused and wishy washy (“a girl who can’t decide”)
also it doesn’t matter what sexuality brendon urie is it doesn’t change that the song is bi-phobic :(
*cracks my knuckles loudly and bisexually* Look, I am a trans* man. Pre-op, No binder, No Testosterone. I basically am a female in every aspect. (To be changed). I’m also bi. Now, I’m studying to be an English teacher, so I’m going to break the song down to my understanding of it.
"A Girl who can’t decide". Ah, but what come’s after that?
"And here’s the reason why: Girls love girls and boys"
he also says “Love is not a choice”
Brendon is putting down the stereotype. He’s saying “Oh, why can’t they “decide”? That’s because GIRLS CAN love GIRLS AND BOYS! It’s not a choice! You biphobic turd!”
When I said it was about being a bisexual female, what I meant was, Brendon’s kind of encouraging the girl to come out and admit she’s bi, to come out of the closet. Embrace it. “I don’t want to save your reputation”. The girl’s afraid of coming out, that people won’t accept her. But Brendon thinks that she should come out anyway. I mean, the song was influenced by his relationship with a bi woman (source below)
The rest is basically him being like “I don’t care that you’re bi and have a girlfriend I love you pls date me” (Which is silly, like #1 Brendon you’re married, #2 u might as well have called it “Girls/Girls/Friendzone”) But it’s a love song, kinda. That’s what they’re about.
And I think it does matter, his sexuality. I wouldn’t write a biphobic, racist, transphobic song? (Since i’m bi, mixed and trans*)? Would I? That wouldn’t make sense!
The song encouraged me to come out to my parents.. For what it’s worth.
"*cracks my knuckles loudly and bisexually*" that whole thing was beautiful
bless you tumblr user antistump
I was tempted to scroll past, but as a bisexual woman myself, I thought I’d chip in here and say that I personally find the song quite questionable and uncomfortable. It does seem to perpetuate harmful stereotypes, and I’m not sure that being a bisexual man singing about the experience of a bisexual woman gives Brendon a free pass (although I’m sure he means no offence with this song, since clearly he doesn’t express homophobia or anything else) to be immune from critique of this song.
The experiences of bisexual men and bisexual women are very different. Bisexual women are thought to be more promiscuous and untrustworthy and are just generally really poorly represented in media as either undecided and attention-seeking, or cheaters who can’t make up their minds.
The lyrics of this song should have been more explicitly pro-bi women, in my opinion. If the aim was to raise awareness and fight on our side, then why does it take all this dissecting to come to the conclusion that this is a positive song? I just think it should have been more obvious so that casual listeners picked up on the message, because if this had been a pro-bi women song, then surely that would be the point? To get changing attitudes and taking a clear stance?
I’m not adding this for an argument. I just think it’s important that this isn’t portrayed as some sort of “so THERE you whining bisexual women! you’re disproved!’ when really the bisexual community is incredibly varied and not a hive mind, so there’s no clear cut answer to if this song is biphobic or not. It’s not about shouting each other down. It’s about listening to the people in our community.
It certainly doesn’t help to act like the people that see problems with this song are merely looking for said problems, because even the people that support this song must admit the overall message isn’t particularly clear. And with bisexual representation so awful right now (especially for bi women) you can hardly blame us for being a little uneasy and skeptical about the whole thing.
I’m actually of the opinion that Brendon wrote this song without thinking about the fact that it’s pretty unique to write a song that’s openly about a bi woman. I don’t think he thought it necessary to make it extremely pro-bi because that’s not really the point of the song. It’s not about bi rights, but what it does do is normalize bisexuality.
10. The Boer Concentration Camps
Pitched under the white hot African sun and crawling with flies, the camps were overcrowded, underequipped, and lethally prone to disease outbreaks. Food supplies were virtually non-existent, and the callous guards would dock people’s meager rations for the slightest perceived offense. The result: sickness and death spread like wildfire, killing women by the thousands and children by the tens of thousands. In a single year, 10 percent of the entire Boer population died in the British camps—a figure that gets even worse when you realize it includes 22,000 children.
But the atrocity didn’t stop there. While rounding up the Boers, the British also decided to detain any black Africans they encountered, 20,000 of whom were worked to death in slave labor camps. All told, British policy in the war killed 48,000 civilians.
9. Aden’s Torture Centers
The Aden Emergency was a 1960s scramble to control the once-vital port of Aden in modern Yemen. Although the port had long been under British rule, a nationalist wave sweeping Yemen led to strikes, riots, and a general desire that the Brits leave as soon as possible. A desire the British decided to quell by opening torture centers.
Detainees were stripped naked and kept in refrigerated cells, encouraging frostbite and pneumonia. Guards would stub their cigarettes out on prisoner’s skin and beatings were common. But perhaps worst of all was the sexual humiliation. Locals who had been detained could expect to have their genitals crushed by guards’ hands, or to be forced to sit naked on a metal pole; their weight forcing it into their anus.
8. The Chinese “Resettlement”
In 1950, the Empire had a problem. Armed Communist insurgents were trying to take over Malay and most of the population seemed willing to let them do so. Reasoning that their forces stood no chance against a hidden army that could call upon the peasants for supplies, the British hit upon an ingenious solution. Rather than fight, they’d simply imprison all the peasants.
Known as “New Villages,” the camps constructed to house Malay’s poor were heavily fortified and watched over by trigger-happy guards. Inmates were forced to do hard labor in return for scraps of food, and contact with the outside world—including family—was forbidden. Once in a village, you lost all right to freedom and privacy. At night, harsh floodlights flushed out the shadows to stop clandestine meetings. Expressing any political sentiment could get your rations docked.
7. The Amritsar Massacre
On April 13, 1919, thousands of peaceful protesters defied a government order and demonstrated against British rule in Amritsar, India. What happened next was one of the lowest points in British history.
At 4.30pm, troops blocked the exits to the Garden and opened fire on the crowd. They kept firing until they ran out of ammunition. In the space of ten minutes, they killed between 379 and 1,000 protesters and injured another 1,100. A stampede caused a lethal crush by the blocked exits. Over 100 women and children who looked for safety in a well drowned. Rifle fire tore the rest to shreds.
The British public labeled Brigadier Reginald Dyer, the man responsible, a hero and raised £26,000 (around $900,000 in today’s money) for “the man who saved India.”
6. The Cyprus Internment
The big myth of the British Empire is that it nobly withdrew from its colonies when it realized the days of Imperialism were over. Yet one look at Cyprus proves the myth to be just a feel-good fairy tale. Between 1955 and 1959, the British responded to a Cyrpus rebel bombing campaign by rounding up and torturing 3,000 ordinary Cypriots.
The victims of this internment campaign were often held for years without trial and violently abused for being “suspected” terrorists. Detainees received regular beatings, waterboarding, and summary executions. Children as young as 15 had burning hot peppers rubbed in their eyeballs, while others reported being flogged with whips embedded with shards of iron. Those found guilty of rebel sympathies were relocated to London, where a UK opposition party inspection found inmates with their arms broken and jagged scars running across their necks.
5. Crushing the Iraqi Revolution
In 1920, the newly-formed nation of Iraq was tiring of British rule. Charged with guiding the new state towards independence, the Empire had instead installed puppet leaders. turning the place into a de facto colony. Fed up with their imperial overlords, the Iraqis turned to revolution, only for the British to unleash wave after wave of atrocities against them.
First the RAF conducted nighttime bombing raids on civilian targets. Then they deployed chemical weapons against the fighters, gassing whole groups of them. But the real horrors came in the aftermath, when the victorious British decided to use collective punishment against the offending tribes.
From that point on, any tribe that caused a fuss would have one of its villages randomly annihilated. Specific orders were given to exterminate every living thing within its walls, from animals to rebels to children. Other villages were subject to random searches. If the British found a single weapon, they would burn the place to the ground, destroy the crops, poison wells, and kill livestock. They’d sometimes target weddings to terrorize the population. In short, the British deliberately targeted civilians in a campaign that lasted the better part of half a decade, all because a few Iraqis had dared to ask for their country back.
4. The Partitioning of India
Cyril Radcliffe has the distinction of killing more people with the stroke of a pen than anyone else in history. With almost zero time to prepare himself, Radcliffe was tasked with drawing the border between India and newly-created Pakistan that would split the subcontinent forever along religious lines. It was a tricky task, one that had the potential to cause massive displacement and ethnic violence even if handled carefully. Radcliffe, on the other hand, was asked to make some of the most-important decisions during the course of a single lunch.
The result was a border that made no ethnic or geographical sense. Terrified of being caught on the wrong side, Hindus in modern Pakistan and Muslims in modern India upped sticks and ran. The result was 30 million people trying desperately to escape one country or the other, a situation that quickly spiraled into mind-numbing violence.
Gangs of armed Muslims held up border trains and slaughtered any non-Muslims onboard. Hindu mobs chased and battered Muslim children to death in broad daylight. Houses were ransacked, villages burnt, and half a million people killed. It was a ridiculous waste of life, one that could have been largely avoided simply by giving the unfortunate Cyril Radcliffe enough time to do his job properly.
[or you know, letting the Indians figure shit out instead of a white guy who had never before even been to the subcontinent]
3. The Irish Famine
What started out as an ordinary if brutal famine soon became something more like genocide when London sent the psychopathic Charles Trevelyan to oversee relief work.
A proud Christian who believed the famine was God’s way of punishing the “lazy” Irish, Trevelyan was also a fierce devotee of Adam Smith. How fierce? Well, he passionately felt that government should never, ever interfere with market forces, to the extent that he refused to hand out food to the starving Irish. Instead, he instituted a public works program that forced dying people into hard labor building pointless roads so they could afford to buy grain. The only problem was he refused to control the price of grain, with the result that it skyrocketed beyond what the road builders could afford. Trevelyan thought this would encourage cheap imports. Instead it led to a million people starving to death.
Trevelyan was later officially honored for his “relief work.”
2. The Kenyan Camps
In the 1950s, the people of Kenya decided they wanted their nation back. Fearing a countrywide rebellion, the British rounded up 1.5 million people and placed them in concentration camps.
Under slogans like “labor and freedom” and other variations on ” Arbeit macht frei,” inmates were worked to death as slave labor filling in mass graves. Random executions were not-uncommon and the use of torture was widespread. Men were anally raped with knives. Women had their breasts mutilated and cut off. Eyes were gouged out and ears cut off and skin lacerated with coiled barbed wire. People were castrated with pliers then sodomized by guards. Interrogation involved stuffing a detainee’s mouth with mud and stamping on his throat until he passed out or died. Survivors were sometimes burned alive.
The official body count is under 2,000, but more reliable estimates place the total dead in the tens or hundreds of thousands. Most of them were civilians or children, detained on vague, trumped-up charges of aiding the rebels.
1. The Bengal Famine
In 1943, a deadly famine swept the Bengal region of modern East India and Bangladesh. Between one and three million people died in a tragedy that was completely preventable. At the time, the extent of suffering was put down to an incompetent British government too busy dealing with a war to look after its empire properly. But in 2010 a new book came out claiming the lack of famine relief was deliberate and that the deaths of those millions had been intentionally engineered by one man: Winston Churchill.
According to the book, Churchill refused to divert supplies away from already well-supplied British troops, saying the war effort wouldn’t allow it. This in itself wouldn’t be too damning, but at the same time he allegedly blocked American and Canadian ships from delivering aid to India either. Nor would he allow the Indians to help themselves: the colonial government forbade the country from using its own ships or currency reserves to help the starving masses. Meanwhile, London pushed up the price of grain with hugely inflated purchases, making it unaffordable for the dying and destitute. Most-chillingly of all, when the government of Delhi telegrammed to tell him people were dying, Churchill allegedly only replied to ask why Gandhi hadn’t died yet.
Never. Ever. Forget.
Major trigger warnings for this post. Also I wish it could have been written without some of the casual ableism.
But this is important history to know. And it’s stuff that we never get taught.
trigger warnings for torture, sexual assault, rape, abuse, murder, shooting, casual ableism, violence and graphic descriptions of abusive torture
I tend to ignore asks like this, but I feel like I have to answer this in light of the rage my satirical ask answer about being visited by ‘The Misandry Fairy’.
It frightens me that there are so many men that could not see the satire. At first I was confused, because, I mean, quite obviously I used the most ludicrous situation I could imagine. I wasn’t going for realism.
But then it hit me. There are men out there with such burning misogyny inside them, that they honestly believe that we could hate them in the same irrational and vile way. They are frightened of the tables turning.
Well, I am sorry to say that you have underestimated us.
If you think I would be happy to see any man executed, then you are wrong. You are so worried about this liberation we feminists speak of ending up like some sort of reverse patriarchy, that you honestly cannot see that we want better than that.
You can’t imagine better than that. It’s all you know.
You’ve seen men abuse the power they have granted themselves for years and years and years, and now you can’t imagine women being granted equal, or perhaps even more power, without abusing it, without using it to the detriment and disadvantage of another gender.
Feminism is not about hurting or hating men. Feminism is a movement that aims to end the privilege of men over women and non-binary genders.
It does scare me that so many cannot see a difference between hating men, and hating a system that is rigged in the favour of men (in terms of gender, of course, other intersecting oppressions are very relevant), at the expense of everyone else.
To the person who sent this ask, you frighten me. I am not afraid to say so. You frighten me because you are projecting. You imagine we could find the same pleasure in dead men that so many men do in dead and abused women.
I will say it again: You underestimate us.
You sicken me.
The SUPERNATURAL fandom has a tag for people of color and a tag specific to ladies, but you know what we’re missing? A tag for women of color!!
Help us fill up a new tag by tagging your edits, fics, drawings, etc. with #spnwoc! They are glorious and deserve lots of love, so get to work!
(under the cut is a list of spn woc to inspire you.)
instead of watching the 50 Shades trailer, why not just make awkward eye contact with a total stranger at the grocery store for a solid 2 minutes and 34 seconds? you get the same skin-crawling, uncomfortable feeling but without the shitty writing, terrible acting and massive dose of rape culture
#look at her though look at her #this is the girl that everyone calls selfish for leaving her old life behind #look at her eyes glancing up for a minute and then back down at the ground #really look #this is someone who knows there’s something out there#maybe not something ‘better’ but something different #but every time she’s reached out she’s stumbled #jimmy stone anyone #tells herself to keep her head out of the clouds#’cause it’s stupid to want #stupid to dream #but she can’t help it #that’s who she is#and so when she meets somebody who dreams like she does #big and loud and as far as the stars #how could she help herself #how could she not take that hand #it’s not just about leaving the shop and the flat behind #it’s about meeting someone who understands #who sees the same better version of yourself #that you always imagined (via)
Nice things to whisper when hugging someone
-you smell different when you’re awake
-please help me (then smile as if nothing happened)
-you have lovely skin, I can’t wait to wear it
-your hair tastes like strawberries
-he knows, don’t go home.
-I always knew you would die in my arms
-every time I poop I think of you
-no one will ever believe you
-I killed mufasa
-I bet you didn’t feel me lick your ear
-mother told me it would be like this